Attachment– a needy clinging to an object of desire–can’t help but become a battleground. Appearing lovely and right at the beginning, attachment inevitably says, “You’ve made … Continue reading What is Attachment?
Sometimes when we long for another to fall in love with us, what we really want is for our presence to render them so unconscious that they become our slaves. This desire is unloving at its root, the product of … Continue reading The Oxymoron of Love Slavery
One reason why I’ve chosen celibacy is that I’m never less conscious than when I’m in love and I never feel less worthy of love than when I’m unconscious. This creates an imbalance of power which the other, if also unconscious, feels compelled to exploit. Continue reading Love’s Imbalance
The paradoxical effect of losing a loved one is that their sudden absence can become a feverish comment on that which remains. That which remains rises in time from the dark with a burning physicality — a luminous super-presence — as we acquaint ourselves with this new and different world. In loss things — both animate and inanimate — take on an added intensity and meaning. ~ Nick Cave Continue reading Nick Cave on Loss